Story 1
Two men, both seriously ill, occupied the same hospital room.One man was allowed to sit up in his bed for an hour each afternoon to help drain the fluid from his lungs.
His bed was next to the room's only window.The other man had to spend all his time flat on his back.
The men talked for hours on end.
They spoke of their wives and families, their homes, their jobs, their involvement in the military service, where they had been on vacation..
Every afternoon, when the man in the bed by the window could sit up, he would pass the time by describing to his roommate all the things he could see outside the window.The man in the other bed began to live for those one hour periods where his world would be broadened and enlivened by all the activity and colour of the world outside.
" Fikiran kita banyak dipengaruhi oleh suasana dan orang sekeliling. Tanpa disedari, kita cenderung untuk membenarkan orang lain membentuk fikiran kita. Banyakkan kepercayaan kita terhasil ketika kita masih kecil, kita membentuk kepercayaan berdasarkan apa yang orang lain di sekeliling kita kata atau lakukan. Bagaimana kita menafsir pengalaman dan keadaan semasa adalah sebahagian besarnya ditentukan oleh kepercayaan kita. Sebagai anak-anak muda, kita biasanya menerima sebagai benar pandangan ibu bapa dan guru-guru. Walaupun "berfikir atas diri sendiri," adalah lebih besar kesannya daripada kita sering tahu atau melapangkan dada untuk menerima."
Once you have that sense of mission, you have the essence of your own proactivity. you have the vision and the values which direct your life. You have the basic direction from which you set your long- and short-term goals. You have the power of a written constitution based on correct principles, against which every decision concerning the most effective use of your time, your talents, and your energies can be effectively measured.
- Stephen R. Covey
Have you ever in your life blaming other people or circumstance for what you have to counter ?. I'll give you a very simple example, you are in bad mood, grumpy all day long and when asked why, you'll said "I cannot be happy today because my brother eat my favorite cake and left nothing for me.". It's like blaming the stimulus (brother eat cake and left nothing) for your response (sadness). Well, this phenomenon is normal in our life, everybody will react the same, grumpy all day long when something bad happen to them. And there's even a believe that it's our nature to be sad or angry if something bad happen to us, we'll felt like we are the victim of the situation and make pity of ourselves "look at me, I'm the most innocent creature on earth, but people keep hurting me, how pity I am." We make genetics, circumstances, conditions, or conditioning as a reason of what we give out in our life.
